Long Distance Relationships

My fiance' & i have been living in an LDR for 2 years plus now. It hasn't always been happy. We have had our fair shares of ups & downs. Having to start it was....i admit, PAINFUL & DEPRESSING. 


towards the end of my final year, after submitting our thesis, me & my friends went on a trip to Langkawi, and me pulling along syg :) kat sana we had a great time ramai2, and kat tepi pantai tu ktorg borak..and borakk..about the future, about our ambitions and plans..(gaduh pon ada k) hehe, but time tu dah clear la, syg akan balik kerja kat Sabah (being scholar Kerajaan Negeri), and me, try membina career kat kl yang penuh possibilities ni..

syg took this pic, masa langkawi trip ni la 

my boyfren (faizal) & bestfren (kaye) jadi kwn baik. 

hehe, apa yg ko buat kt pjg dlm chalet tu haaa???? :D

so for the following months (May-August), both of us didn't go to any job interviews, kitorg kerja part time kat firm Arwah Tn. Haji Meor (he has passed away last month in the blessed month of Ramadhan) which is 5 mins away from my house and ktorg berdating lah almost everyday, bergaduh merajuk juga hari2..oh bercinta mmg seronok, but deep in our hearts we were getting used to the fact that after our convocation, we wouldn't be able to see each other that often..(sebak pulak bila teringat)..

best tak buat kerja tngok blakang dia je,

 kan dah kata syg is a workaholic, 

so nak focus kerja mmg pandang pc je :p 

(oh dgn bangganye dia pkai baju kaed fest yg aku bagi :) )

seb baik gak ktorg kerja tmpat sama, dah kata part time je, the other part time tu menjadi pengganggur..hehe, syg pon slalu dtg rumah, dah baik wif my mum..and...before he went back to Sabah for good..he came for dinner at my house by himself, and when i was upstairs pegi toilet..dia merisik (ala2 merisik moden) for me to my parents, me & wina time tu duk kat tangga menyorok & eavesdropping, nk mengalir air mata sebab tak sangka dia seberani tu nk face my parents alone..(syg, i love you tau tak?!)


time tu bulan July, 2008..he promised my parents by next year, after he had a fixed income & a good job he would send his family to set the proper merisik & engagement date..i was so freaking happy time tu tuhan je tau :) then aku terpaksa turun kat living room and buat2 tak tau apa2..heheh...susah k


second week of july, was syg's flite to Sabah, he would be coming back at the end of August for our convocation, that would mean, 1 1/2 months apart (6 freaking long weeks)..our longest time away from each other...kira mcm trial for the real thing..me & his big sis hantar dia kat airport, dia balik dgn karon..psl ada kak faezah of coz buat macho kan, tp akak dia pon tau aku mcm sedih gila kot..then dorg dh boarding kak faezah offer to send me home, I refused..I just wanted to be alone, naik bus..alasan nye lagi senang nk naik lrt balik rumah..kak faezah kata ok..and dlm bus, banjir la kan nasib baik tak lemas org2 lain dlm bus tu.hehehe

happy sgt muka org yang nak tinggalkn aku tu ;,(

so how was our first time LDR experience? seksa gila ok! perasaan dia sumpah tak sama cam sekarang..dah biasa tngok muka dia everyday, lepak sama, gelak, gaduh..tambah lagi lak time ni dua2 masih mengganggur..omaigod..i can't begin to tell you how seksa it was ckp 10 minit je habis credit, then xde duit nak top up plak tu..


haihh, how did we survive? cilok credit parents tau tak..hahah, and ckp dua hari sekali, sumpah x best..rasa sungguh sedih & ys aku mengaku, i cried every single day for a month, dah nk dekat2 time convo tu baru la kurang sket, psl dia nak datang kan..hes my bestfren..boleh bygkan x, if ko x dpt ckp dgn besfren ko? tempat kte mengadu & mengamuk tu, hehe..nk mengadu kat parents pon xsama, im not that close to them..


then he came back!! a week before our convo :) sungguh best time tu..

and then a few days after, syg fly's back to negeri di bawah bayu, nk report to work on the following week..we went to the airport together, naik bus, balik aku menahan air mata tp dlm hati (he will be staying and working in Sabah for good..nak ke dia dgn aku lagi lepas ni? will an LDR work for us? will we have the same communication like before?) sungguh runsing..balik tu aku singgah ofis mama, mkn lunch dgn dia, kfc..sambil suap mulut, berketul2 air mata jatuh..mama diamkan je..buat tak nampak..huhu


after that everything is history, having an LDR has actually brought us closer, understand each other better, and most importantly, appreciate one another so much more :) from our first year of LDR (jumpa once every 2 or 3 months), till after ktorg bertunang (jumpa once every month at least*beli tiket flite setahun awal*), we have survived so far...


and now..well insyaAllah next week syg will be flying back to KL for the last time as my fiance' :) and we're getting married soon! its seems so magical (okay minus the stressful times of organizing our wedding together from across the south china sea), having an LDR has brought us this far, it might not work for everyone..but Alhamdulillah our love is as strong as ever..


lagi2 since jadi blogger bride since last year, sambil berblog hopping tu, aku tak sangka..i would find so many brides & newly weds, having to go thru LDR's just like me, ada yang duk overseas while their partner is in Msia, ada yang hubby dia kena pegi kerja rite after their wedding so 6 months lepas kawin xle jumpa langsung, not forgetting my darling eija, the person i chat with everyday & has helped me along the way so so much! shes a weekend wife too, and nak ada baby dh soon!


all of these stories & bloggers kuatkan my smangat that having an LDR is normal, we just have to learn to adapt and learn to communicate & be loyal..insyaALlah, if kte ingat we're already in a bad situation, there are others that are having it worse..hehe, well cukupla bebelan tuk hari ni, 16 days before..if rajin pls singgah & bace article ni: Pasangan Jarak Jauh (PJJ) Terhebat by Puan Xeea..mmg best giler entry dia, and so so true..hee, till next brain squeezing session.. 

SELAMAT HARI RAYA! MAAF ZAHIR DAN BATIN

 (or bak kata my fren Syam, SHRMZB!!)